The Relationship SpectrumOnline version Relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive, with unhealthy falling in the middle. Do you know how to recognize one from the others? Match the characteristics listed below to the type of relationship (healthy, unhealthy, or abusive) and see if you're right! by Talia Shuman 1 Healthy 2 Unhealthy 3 Abusive Both partners communicate openly with each other Both partners are respectful toward each other There is trust in the relationship Partners are honest with each other Both enjoy spending personal time away from each other Mutual choices are made, including compromising with each other. Partners are not communicating with each other Partners are disrespectful toward each other Partners are dishonest toward each other One or both partners try to take control Partners feel pressured into participating in activities There is a lack of trust in the relationship One or both partners are communicating in a hurtful or threatening way There is mistreatment in the relationship One or both partners accuses the other of cheating when it's untrue One or both partners deny their actions are abusive One or both partners are controlling in how the other dresses, who they talk to, and what they do One partner is isolated from their friends and family by the other partner